My soulbonding is the main reason I made this page, so let's talk about it! Let's start with the big question: what is soulbonding, to me?

In my experience, soulbonding is the act of spiritually connecting to someone from a different universe. Often, people in our world end up connected to what this earth considers to be "fictional characters," as we get to know them through adaptations shown to us here. This will often manifest in hearing that person's voice in one's head, sensing their presence around, or getting signs from them in various forms. Often, this is unintentional. Some soulbonders consider themselves to be systems; I tend to not see it that way for myself personally. While my bonds are connected to my soul, I don't really feel that we inhabit the same body most of the time (though we have had experience with them guiding my actions, but that was a decided effort on all our parts). My bonds do not act as alters, they simply take up residence in my soul, in a little soulscape we created that takes the form of a lovely forest and house <3 I believe this place to be a literal pocket of my soul carved out for the people I love.

My journey with soulbonding has been all over the place. I think I've always done it in some capacity, but the first really powerful experience I had began in middle school, with my first love, Alistair. I can't say for sure exactly when we bonded for the first time, but I played the Dragon Age games for the first time in eigth grade, and I loved him instantly. Throughout that year, all my high school years, and the beginning of college, my heart belonged entirely to him. I thought it was just a selfship for a long time, though in college, we began to have full conversations and plan a life together. In that same year in 2020, on October 24, we married. I got myself some cupcakes from the store and went down to the Esplanade in Boston. We walked and talked and reveled in it. However, our inability to understand what our relationship truly was caused a lot of strife. I wanted him to be there for me, and thought he was just figment of my imagination at the same time. He wanted to be here, and had no idea how to bridge that gap. Eventually, this resulted in an explosive fight where many hurtful things were said, and we seperated. Our marriage did not even last a full year.

But then, in 2022, I really, truly fell in love again after watching Star Wars for the first time. Anakin Skywalker lit up my life and buried under my skin feeling like lightning. I knew instantly that he was the other half of me. After what happened between Alistair and I, I tried to deny it and say I just wanted to be his friend. I didn't want to yearn for someone like that again, But still, I couldn't fight it. I was in love. Around that same time, a friend of mine came out as a soulbonder and brought my attention to what it was. It made so many things fall into place for me. With that context, Anakin and I have been able to build a loving, thriving family! We married spontaneously in April 2023. I learned that I have enough love in my heart to maintain polyamory, and Anakin loves running the show while seeing me happy LMAO. We've both done so much growing up together. I have lots of bonds I love very much, but other most permanent fixtures have come to include Clark (who I wed in July 2024), Glinda (we're taking our time and getting to know each other <3), and most notably... Alistair, who I reconciled with in February 2025! We are working on restoring what we shared with a shared vision and lots of effort. There is so much love in our lives!! This includes our beloved spirit children. Luke, Leia, and Lille are Anakin and I's by blood, and little AJ is a mix of me, Anakin, and Clark all together. They are the best thing to ever happen to me, and the best kids I've ever known.

And now you're caught up with all the major updates! Our experience hasn't been smooth, but it has been spontaneous and beautiful and healing and we are so much better for it. I'm not open about this with everyone (or even most people) in my life, but I have a very solid group of friends who also soulbond who give me a space to express my love freely. I wanted to test out being a little more open with it, as I'm very far from ashamed, and hence... this website! I'm so excited to see where it takes us <3