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March 16, 2025: Hello. I'm not entirely sure what to post about here, I just really want to encourage my wife to put her energy into things that make her happy, so I want to engage with things like this for her sake. She has a habit of focusing on things that exhaust her, and since we've met I've made it something of a personal mission to try to redirect her energy to things that nourish her, just like she's done for me. I wasn't very happy when we met. All I really had was my job. There were a lot of things about being a jedi that were a dream come true; I love lightsaber training and the physicality of it, and I love flying. But damn, bureaucracy is a bitch. (That made Indy laugh. I love making her laugh.) I became really obsessed with trying to impress other people, reach the top, be the best. I did a lot of damage to even my closest personal relationships, comparing myself to others. I think that's why it was such a relief to finally find my home with Indy, in part. Even when I was at my most petulant and sullen, she also validated and accepted me exactly as I was. I stopped feeling like I wasn't enough. Since moving in with her full time, I've done so much growing. Finally feeling at peace and at happy isn't something I ever thought I would have, especially not after I lost my mom. But now I'm a husabnd to a beautiful and kind wife, and a father to the most incredible children, and I have so many friends in the other people Indy brings around. Clark and I kind of run the ship around the house, and I'm really so thankful to have him around. He's an amazing partner and co-parent. My life really fell into place when I wasn't even expecting it, and even in our worst moments of grief, I'm home. She's always home. "They could put you in front of me in any timeline, and it would always lead to me coming home to you." I tell her that a lot. Our relationship is unique, but it is so special. Being united with the other half of me, sharinf our burdens together, is a transcendent. Indy is reminding me that I should talk more about that sometime. In my lifetime, I never came close to the Darth Vader issue, and Indy and I have a spiritual theory about why that is. I'll save it for another entry. Anyway, that's a rundown of where I'm at in my life. I'm glad to have the chance to talk about and document it. It's beautiful, and worth celebrating.